Imagine this: you’re at a crossroads in your life, and you feel you’re supposed to take the road that’s different than the status quo.
What if it’s a wrong move?
What will others think?
Will I still be respected if I pursue this?
What if I hate it later? If so, can I save face?
You start to doubt yourself. You wish someone would tell you what to do, or even wish God would write your whole future on a blackboard, so the path is clear.
You feel torn and nervous.
Finding and following your voice takes courage, and there’s a reason why.
When you determine to figure out who you are, and what’s your unique purpose, you also determine you’re the one responsible for it.
And that can be scary at times.
Taking responsibility means you won’t blame anyone else for the outcome, and you won’t hide behind another person’s dream unless you feel that’s your calling. But even then, you’re the one deciding.
The beautiful thing is: inner strength develops quicker when you take responsibility. You find out what your spirit is made of. Competence rises to the surface, and you trust yourself in greater measure.
But what about other opinions?
As I shared in this post, most of us have outside voices we listen to. Those voices often determine our actions. When we choose to explore our desires and wants, we have to depart from other voices, and that’s not an easy thing to do. It takes an assertiveness we’re not used to employing.
So how do we get past the fear and find our voice? Ask and answer these four questions:
- Do I prefer to lean on the safety of stronger voices? If so, it’s okay to recognize it and determine your voice is just as important. Listening to God helps. (He made each one of us unique on purpose.) While getting input is wise in a lot of instances, it doesn’t have to trump the unique call you have. Assess other voices, then put them in their proper place.
- Would I rather have the comfort of the status quo? This is huge. Comfort is often what most of us work for, but it can be the enemy of discovering our unique path. I always ask myself if I’ll regret not taking chances later. Since I don’t want to live with regret, it often moves me past my comfort zone. I can always return to it later if I want.
- Do I care to find out who I am apart from others? The answer may be surprising.
- Am I okay with failing if I don’t make the right decision? Give yourself permission to reframe failure. It’s just another opportunity to grow. I wrote a post about it here.
Answering these questions helps us determine where we’re currently at, and what thoughts need to change to move forward.
Taking responsibility for our lives can be scary at first, but it’s the fastest track to finding our truest self.
And for those of us who love to develop our spiritual side, almost every story of a man or woman who changed their sphere of influence followed the unique call God gave them. They weren’t status quo seekers; they were pioneers.
Have you felt fear when finding and acting upon your voice or calling?
I’d love to hear.